In my last post, I briefly went through my history with Dressing Your Truth, and I’ll pick up from where I left off.
So I recognized that I was actually a T3, and figured, again, that I had gotten my primary and secondary reversed, and I was a 3/4, like I had originally thought back in 2014. But again, I was faced with it not feeling quite right. I wasn’t as formal as 3/4s seemed to be. My facial features seemed to be less strong. I have a degree of cuteness and youthfulness. I realized, as I dressed T3, that there was a kind of disconnect between how I think I dress, and how I actually dress. While I may not wear the outfits that Anna K (the 3/1 expert) wears, the reason behind why she wears what she wears started to resonate with me. I like graphic tees, stuff swiped from the kids’ section, and a more young, casual look. I look best in a degree of animation. I can wear a lot of things other people can’t–I am a Flamboyant Gamine, after all!
But again, I was stymied by the fact that 3/1 is a double extrovert energy. I wouldn’t say I was obviously high movement as a child. I spent a lot of time doing quiet, solitary activities, and while I may move loudly, I wasn’t talkative or especially active compared to others; in fact, it was the opposite. And as an adult, I love reading and writing and getting deep into topics. These are things that had put me on the path to T4.
Then Carol did a Coaching Call with the 1/3 expert, Jeny, and Anna K. I don’t want to get too into what they said, since it’s only for Lifestyle members, but it made me realize that if you’re one of these types, you might not realize how high your energy is when you aren’t aware of how high it is, and you might have stifled yourself. I decided to try 3/1, and posted in Lifestyle asking if anyone else was a 3/1 or 1/3 who didn’t recognize their high energy, and I added some photos of myself. I got some great responses from other people of these energy types who felt the same way.
Eventually, it was closed and I got in touch with Support, who offered me a Truthbomb. A Truthbomb is where, instead of Carol randomly leaving a comment, it’s a structured experience where you are asked to post on a specific date and people are asked to guess your type based on facial profiling. I accepted the offer to join the queue for this, but then Carol reopened my thread and commented on my type.
Carol confirmed that I am a 3/1.
My reaction to this was to cry for about 15 seconds, and then I made a joke on Facebook about the Eagles’ new head coach. I saw my secondary 1 come into play there with connect/disconnect. In fact, that’s a way I see it a lot. You can even see on this blog, where I start a bunch of projects and then get bored and pick them up again two years later.
I can see that while I may not be the most social or visibly active person, I like to keep busy. I am involved in a ton of different things, from work to volunteering to admining the SK groups to creating an entire side business with Personality Squared. If I’m watching TV, I have a game open on my phone. I need some degree of movement around me or it’s hard for me to concentrate (aka I’m messy). It shows up in ways that aren’t as obvious as what you might think of when you think of a 3/1 person, but I can see that it’s there now.
Just a note about figuring out your secondary: the recommended way is through your style preferences. Carol can generally see it in your face as well, but it’s not recommended to use facial profiling to figure it out, because people get confused enough looking for their primaries! I can see that there are facial similarities among people of the same secondary, i.e., I can see that the fact that I have a more cute and youthful look compared to other T3s points toward S1. But again, it’s not recommended to do it this way!
In my next post, I’m going to talk about how this has affected how I see my style going forward. If you have any questions about my experience, please leave a comment. 🙂 There is probably a lot of stuff I’m leaving out!