My last post on my Kibbe journey was only twelve days ago, but reading it again, it feels like a lifetime ago, in terms of where I’m at with Kibbe’s system. Basically, I still see the things in me that led me to believe that I was a Soft Dramatic, but after trying on clothes, I now believe that I actually fit with the Soft Naturals.
This makes sense, because I think it seems to be fairly common for Soft Naturals to misdiagnose themselves as Soft Gamines, and vice versa. This pin by Rachel Nachmias has been a revelation for me. Yes, I am youthful looking, but my bone structure is too substantial and my face is too yang.
Looking around for Soft Natural clothes has been a breath of fresh air. I don’t feel at all like I did when I was looking for Soft Gamine clothes, like I was trying to put myself in a box that wasn’t right for me at all. Part of this stems from my most major Kibbe revelation of all: Image Identity does not define your style.
When I look for sets and boards for various Image Identities on Polyvore and Pinterest, I find that most of Identities are seen in a very narrow way. For Soft Natural, this seems to be Boho Chic with a dash of Jennifer Aniston. I don’t even like Jennifer Aniston, except for her Living Proof line at Sephora. I had spent all of this time I’ve been looking at Kibbe feeling turned off by Soft Natural because it was presented in this very narrow way. But as I read about Kibbe’s clients’ experiences, it became clear to me that there were no set styles. Obviously, it’s easiest to dress in your “native” type, so a Soft Classic in a Classic style or a Romantic in a Romantic style. Some things are more challenging, like making Dramatic Classic boho (as was recently discussed on Seasonal Color. But Kibbe seems to dress everyone differently to work with the individual.
I think it’s important to not look at “examples” of dressing for a type because it can really throw you off. You get mired in thinking that a Soft Natural, or whatever you think you might be, has to dress in certain ways. Just look at the guidelines in regard to print size, fit, cut, etc. and try things on. Ask for objective opinions. See how you feel.
I know that my Soft Natural will look different than the Pinterest boards. So will my Light Spring. But it’s the one that will work for me.
For some Soft Natural non-Boho inspiration, I’m on the fence as to whether this works, and it’d probably on work on SNs who are super skinny, but I like the mix of textures and the fit of the dress that Carine Roitfeld, my favorite SN who doesn’t often dress SN, is wearing:
ShawnaDecember 31, 2014 at 11:22 am
I have just found your blog and as you suspect, it was because I am exploring Kibbe types. I have been completely stuck, going back and forth trying to figure out which fits me and keep going back to what feels like my essence, soft natural, even though physically I seem to be more soft classic with the height of a dramatic. There is nothing dramatic about me other than that I am 5’9″ and the classic clothing, even the soft, is just a bit too prissy for my liking. It is very clear to me that I am a soft. I am even a soft summer in my colouring and I am a type 2 in DYT, (also an INFJ) but I kept getting stuck on the descriptions of body shape and facial features. SN feels like home to me just as the FG does to you. I think that has to be worth quite a bit.Reply
stylesyntaxJanuary 3, 2015 at 2:49 am
Soft Natural recommendations are the ones closest to DYT Type 2, in my opinion. What about Soft Classic works with your physicality? I would not worry so much about the description of features, since at first glance, FG didn’t sound like my body, either. But the more I studied, the more I realized that it did.