I’ve been writing about my own Kibbe journey on this website for a long time–I started it fairly shortly after I found David’s work. And throughout, I’ve never experienced that feeling of 100% certainty that I have it right.
I am very good at convincing myself that I see what I want to see. I did this with Type Four as well. And when I found Kibbe, there was really no good information about there. There was just the book, the way people interpreted the book, and people who had gone to see him. In the end, I went with where my inner self was telling me to go.
But I have never truly been able to claim FG with 100% confidence. It was just what I wanted to be. I was never one to share my outfits or anything like that. Maybe I didn’t want to give the chance to be proven wrong about myself. Maybe I knew deep down that I didn’t really fit the description.
But a couple of months ago, I finally felt like it was time to explore these doubts. A member of Strictly Kibbe shared her experience seeing David, and hearing the way she described her line made me realize that it was basically impossible for me to not have Curve in some way. My line would have to accommodate the curve from my bust pushing out fabric. I decided to redo the exercises, which I haven’t done since they were being written and posted in real time by David.
What came up for me during the exercises was that I had some serious yin resistance. I don’t think I have some yin-related issues or anything–I don’t relate to the kinds of things in the book about being seen as too sexy, or anything like that. Yin, and the aesthetics of yin, just had no appeal or resonance for me. It wasn’t something I was ever drawn to.
So when I got the sketch portion of the exercises, I first ended up with Width and Curve and decided to move to Soft Natural. This was still a yang space. It felt safe. It accommodated Curve, and yet it was still primarily yang. There was a relaxed simplicity of line that appealed to me. It wasn’t yin enough so as to trigger my yin resistance.
I got very excited about the prospect, in a way that I wasn’t excited about Soft Natural in the past. I watched a Jane Fonda movie or two.
But then David reached out to me and asked if I wanted some feedback, which is where I’ll end this. Stay tuned for part two!
PattiNovember 17, 2022 at 9:40 am
I am looking forward to your next post about David Kibbes told you about your Kibbes type. Do you know if it’s true whether he is coming out with a new book?Reply
stylesyntaxNovember 17, 2022 at 3:46 pm
Yes, I wrote about it here: http://stylesyntax.com/blog/2022/06/04/david-kibbe-has-a-new-book-coming-out/
Bla31zeNovember 23, 2022 at 9:18 am
I can’t wait to read the rest!Reply
stylesyntaxJanuary 16, 2023 at 1:18 pm
RaeDecember 7, 2022 at 10:42 pm
Thank you so much for sharing your Kibbe journey… this brought me to tears. You are so generous in sharing your perspective and insights. To hear your evolving self-discovery means a lot. I really appreciate your emotional revelations, they resonate with me. I have strong yin resistance, it frightens me to think people can see my softness. You have really helped me so much over the past few months, your blog and comments on Kibbe Reddit have been so valuable. (I do not have Facebook.) I am so excited to read more about your journey. Thank you.Reply
stylesyntaxJanuary 16, 2023 at 1:17 pm
I am so glad that this has helped you!
MyriamDecember 8, 2022 at 4:12 am
Well, that’s interesting! Thanks for your honesty, it makes things easier knowing it is a tough road for everyone or almost everyone!Reply
stylesyntaxJanuary 16, 2023 at 1:16 pm
Yes, I think it is. Even when it’s not, we are good are creating obstacles for ourselves.